who's your favorite little rascal?
...Alfalfa or is it Spanky?
Maybe it's because I caught Tommy Boy or TV last weekend, or maybe it's because of all the "people I fantasize about" lists I've seen lately (Robb, Lilith, Heather for starters), or maybe it's because I just read Charlie's thoughts on masturbation, but whatever it is, a strange question popped into my head...
This question is only for the ladies: if you heard a guy who you do not know at all say that the last time he masturbated he thought about you while he was taking care of business, would you be offended, disgusted, or flattered?
Would your answer change if you later met the guy and found him attractive? or if you found him unattractive?
And what if a close guy friend, who you've known for years, said that you had made a guest appearance on Spanktravision - how would you feel? Or what if it was a close friend of your boyfriend or husband, who you've always thought was cute and wondered "what if?"
Oh, and Alydyn brought up a good point - for the purposes of responding to this question, assume that there is no risk of the guys turning into stalkers or otherwise becoming obsessive.
Just one of those questions I've always wanted to have answered. Please help me out...
Maybe it's because I caught Tommy Boy or TV last weekend, or maybe it's because of all the "people I fantasize about" lists I've seen lately (Robb, Lilith, Heather for starters), or maybe it's because I just read Charlie's thoughts on masturbation, but whatever it is, a strange question popped into my head...
This question is only for the ladies: if you heard a guy who you do not know at all say that the last time he masturbated he thought about you while he was taking care of business, would you be offended, disgusted, or flattered?
Would your answer change if you later met the guy and found him attractive? or if you found him unattractive?
And what if a close guy friend, who you've known for years, said that you had made a guest appearance on Spanktravision - how would you feel? Or what if it was a close friend of your boyfriend or husband, who you've always thought was cute and wondered "what if?"
Oh, and Alydyn brought up a good point - for the purposes of responding to this question, assume that there is no risk of the guys turning into stalkers or otherwise becoming obsessive.
Just one of those questions I've always wanted to have answered. Please help me out...
posted by Nebbitt at
1:40 PM
8 Comments:
Alydyn-
Thanks for the insight. And I clarified the original question to rule out the stalker factor.
Interesting response about the close friend - Since as Robb pointed out lots of guys would like to be more than friends w/ some of their female friends, would knowing a close friend was using you for motivation make you think that he wanted to be more than friends? And if you started strumming the banjo thinking about him, would it make hooking up w/ the guy more likely?
As for the relationship part of the question, if I heard one of my friends had been thinking about my girlfriend, I might be flattered, but if it was about my wife I'd take it as disrespectful.
"...would you be offended, disgusted, or flattered?"
Lilith: I would be flattered.
"Would your answer change if you later met the guy and found him attractive? or if you found him unattractive?"
Lilith: Well, I guess as long as it is not a creepy stalker guy I'd be fine, but if he was hot it'd be all the better.
"And what if a close guy friend, who you've known for years, said that you had made a guest appearance on Spanktravision - how would you feel?"
Lilith: I'd be flattered if I new it didn't mean anything. If he wanted something from it, it may be weird. If he's been on my "Spankravision" then I'd be flattered and excited.
"Or what if it was a close friend of your boyfriend or husband, who you've always thought was cute and wondered "what if?"
Lilith: I'd be flattered, but definitely be careful from that point on.
"...would knowing a close friend was using you for motivation make you think that he wanted to be more than friends?"
Lilith: We aren't as stupid as we look! We know all that you guys are thinking about is banging us! Give me a break! No, just joking, well sort of. I haven't had many guys that are friends not mention it at some point. Of course when I was married it was always in a joking manner. Now that I'm separated I've had them come out and tell me that they want to be friends with "benefits". I've had to break a lot of them from that idea. But, yeah I would think that he wanted more.
“And if you started strumming the banjo thinking about him, would it make hooking up w/ the guy more likely?”
Lilith: Well, yeah! If I found him attractive and he found me attractive, I mean I can't guarantee anything, but yeah there'd be a good chance that it would happen sooner or later.
I'd be flattered on all three counts because it is only in fantasy. Though I very rarely fantasize about guys I know. I mostly think of hot scenes from movies or books or watch porn like normal people. LOL. But if it were my best friend's husband or someone else close to me, I think I may feel a little awkward to know that I starred in his xrated fantasies. They can keep that to themselves. LOL.
I would be flattered if a guy I don't know was picturing me while taking care of business.
Would it make a difference if I found him attractive or unattractive? No, I would still be flattered.
If one of my guy friends let me know I had made an appearance on his Spanktravision, I'd be flattered, but then concerned how that may change our friendship. It's one thing to be thought of while he is taking care of business, it's another thing to actually have him tell me about it. Really why would he tell me? What would be the point other than to see if I would react in such a way that I wanted to hook-up with him?
I'm not dating right now, so I can't speak to the boyfriend/husband question. But, I doubt it would bother me if either of us thought "what if". Just so long as it was never acted upon. I have some good looking friends so I couldn't blame him in the least ;)
As to your banjo strumming question in your comments, If I am thinking of a guy in a sexual manner, it probably would make hooking-up with him more likely if he wanted the same thing. But then again, I don't tell my male friends if I am thinking about them when I'm getting busy with myself.
I love being the center of attention, so I wouldn't mind on any of the counts you mentioned...provided, of course, that him being a stalker or potentially harmful was not a possibility.
Dude, if I was on a guy's spanktravision, I sure wouldn't want to know!
I'm surprised how similar the responses are, but the consensus seems to be that as long as the guy didn't expect anything more, most of you would be flattered if a man was fantasizing about you. That's what I thought, too, so now I know. And all you ladies will be playing on Spanktravision tonight...just kidding!
But as a few of you pointed out, I'm not sure why a guy would ever admit to a woman that he wasn't trying to hook up with that they had starred in a "Fast Times" moment (you remember - Phoebe Kates coming out of the pool!). Not the kind of thing I'd tell a close friend:
ME: So what'd you do last night?
HER: I watched the OC & vegged out. You?
ME: Oh, I just jerked off while thinking about banging you.
HER: [awkward pause] Hey, I think I left the iron on. Gotta run...
Kind of a conversation killer. Especially in front of a group of friends...awkward!
And Robb, I know you're just trying to get the last word in, but I said this question was for the ladies only - I know you're not using your penis these days, but you still have one, right? So just wait for the guys only question...and don't worry, the guys aren't spanking it thinking about you or me!!
Recently, someone told me that I was the target of their Spanktravision and I took it as a compliment, but it came completely out of nowhere! There wasn't even any physical back up...(ie-pictures, voices, smells, etc.)
Seems a little odd, but I'm cool with it. Whatever blows your skirt up!
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